In April 2015, we lost our baby half way through my pregnancy. With no complications during my first pregnancy with our daughter Isabella, and no known health problems or family history of baby loss, it was a massive shock to find ourselves in this situation.
Within a few hours of finding out the devastating news that our baby’s heart had stopped beating, we were whisked to the labour suite to be induced. Nine hours later, I gave birth to our son who we named Charlie.
All we could hear during those long nine hours were the sounds of healthy new born babies being born. The first cries, parent’s joy and visiting family members made our stay on the labour ward an incredibly heart-breaking experience and it is something we won’t ever forget.
We stayed another night and day in the hospital. The midwives and chaplain who gave Charlie a naming ceremony were brilliant and so sensitive to our situation. The care we received was amazing but it was hard to believe that there was no other space for the families who had experienced stillbirth to go to. We were keen to find a way to raise funds for a suite away from the main labour ward.
We were put in touch with Forever Stars and so inspired by the Serenity Suite they had created at Queens Medical Centre that we began to raise funds to build a suite at the City hospital.
To date, we have raised approximately £13,000; my dad has been the key driver behind this. During his year as President for Mapperly Rotary club, he chose to support Forever Stars, with all fundraising efforts going to the charity. My mother in law raised £1,241 via a sponsored Park run which was a fantastic achievement as her fundraising goal was to raise £100.
In 2017, we went on to have another baby, Jack, at the City Hospital. We were anxious throughout the pregnancy and in the first few weeks after Jack was born. We feel strongly that there should be more training for health professionals to support women when they have a baby following a previous loss.
This Year, Ben is cycling 300 miles from London to Paris and Lucy is holding a music event. Between us, we hope to raise in excess of £6000.
We were asked to be Trustees last year and are excited to be part of the team. Through running our own business, we have access to corporate sponsorship, business tools and experience which contribute towards the structure and operations of Forever Stars. Ambitious plans lie ahead and we look forward to supporting Richard and Michelle in any way we can.
Being part of Forever Stars allows us to give Charlie a legacy and having him in our family conversations keeps our memory of him at the forefront of our minds which is very important to us.